This one is for the Moms
Ladies, it may be hard to find but there really is a ME in MothEr.
It's already MAY. I can't believe how this year has gone by so quickly. While I like to savor each day, I'm also thrilled that summer is upon us because I get to fly and visit my sister for the first time in over a year! Yes, after all the stress of this pandemic, my family and I can reunite and hug and just hang out again. My daughters are ecstatic that they get to ride a plane and I'm actually looking forward to the excitement and anxiety of travelling with two kids 5 and below, 'cause you never know... will this be a quiet trip? Or will we be the family with screaming toddlers? Bring it on!
Speaking of planes, the safety speech that flight attendants so animatedly give at the beginning of the trip, just came to mind. Random, huh? But as fate would have it, I have a reason for this, I promise. Stick with me here.
Mother's day is just around the corner and I thought this would be a great time to honor my mom friends, customers and all mothers out there with this message: there is a ME in MothEr! Yes! We've all heard this message said in countless different ways, but sometimes, we just have to hear it again. As moms, I believe we have a sense of guilt genetically wired in us - I just want 5 minutes to myself... but what if my kid needs me?
I just wanted a quiet 5 minute bath and I got it last night… but in that time, my 3-year old had an accident in her pants out in the garden, while dad was right beside her! She ran into the house and looked at me, her eyes filled with betrayal. If I had been there, this wouldn't have happened to her. How could I do this to her? My heart broke. I let her down, when all I wanted was to shower in peace.
As I reflect on last night's fiasco, what came to mind was the safety announcement they give when you ride a plane: "if needed, oxygen masks will be released overhead… be sure to secure your own mask before assisting others." You are no good to anyone else if you don't take care of yourself first!
Self care is a mother's greatest tool for success. We need to remind ourselves and remind each other of that. It doesn't have to be some grandiose gesture, because I mean, who really has the time for that everyday? Here are some ideas of what you can do in 5 minutes or less for yourself, mama!
(1) Step outside, away from everything, and have your cup of coffee for as long as it takes you to name 3 things for which you are grateful.
(2) While waiting in the school pickup line, play a special song such as your first wedding dance, your guilty pop song pleasure, your favorite dance tune, or a movie theme song you love.
(3) Reconnect with an old friend - go through your contacts list and find someone you'd like to call… give them a call! Not a text message. Just say hello and see how they're doing. If they don't answer, leave a message with the same thoughts.
What do you think? If you try some of these, I'd love to hear back from you. How did it make you feel? And if you have other ideas for Mother ME time in 5 minutes or less, please share them with us.